Sunday, January 2, 2011
Mean Church Lady
That was me today. I hate being that person. I totally feel crappy about it. As Chair of the RE Committee, I constantly hear complaints about the lack of supervision of the kids during coffee hour: Kids being where they aren't supposed to be or running around creating havoc. Part of this is true and a lot of it is exaggeration. But, there is that perception we are dealing with. So much so, that we are having trouble finding teachers because of the "behavior" issues. Gah!!! This is such a sensitive subject. Today, I had to ask a sibling pair three times to stop running around. Part of me was "just let it go", a second part was "there are lots of elderly folk who could get knocked over", a third part was "you are being mean and crabby about it", a fifth part was "somebody needs to say something" and a sixth part was "kids are kids and we don't have a good place for them to hang out at church; so get over yourself." In the end, I said something. It was just getting out of hand. Their mother was nowhere in sight. I also said something to her - which I feel even more crappy about. I hate telling parents that I said something to their kids. I told her that I had asked her kids to stop running around because I was getting worried somebody was going to get hurt. I told her they might think I was the mean church lady, but I really wasn't trying to be. Of course, she now probably thinks that of me. She was nice, but who wants to hear something like that about their kids? Now I wish I would have just said something to the kids and not her. I feel like I was calling her out and that is super uncomfortable and probably not fair. I don't know. What would you have done? How do you handle situations where parents just let their kids have free pass to the church? How do you set up expectations?