Sunday, October 20, 2013

The Name Saga Continues


I mentioned in an earlier post that my last name is Koch and the questions I get as to whether or not I am related to the Koch brothers.  I am NOT at all related to them, not even remotely.  The other day I was on the phone to an internet host provider regarding a non-profit I help run.  I gave him my name and he immediately asks if I am related to the Koch brothers.  What?!  I said no, and he proceeded to tell me how glad he was I wasn't.  I am not sure he would have let me renew the site if I had been!  Sometimes I wish I would have just kept my maiden name.  Maybe I should start another blog chronically all the times I am asked...

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Kid Sports

September and October are crazy busy months for us.  Daughter is in volleyball and both sons are in soccer.  Everyday, the logistics of getting every one where they need to be is a huge puzzle that has to be solved.  As we are nearing the end of the season, the kids are in more tournaments and I am forced to just sit and watch.  This past Friday and today were totally consumed with a volleyball tournament.  The girls did great, but I found myself getting wrapped up in how well they were playing. Normally I try to be as encouraging as possible, but today I found my thoughts (thankfully not out loud) going towards, "why do they keep M in? She keeps missing her spikes", "S needs to stop being such a ball hog", "why can't the girls just talk to each other?!?", etc.  I was just being so critical.  Then I caught myself and stepped back. These girls are only 12 and 13!  They are still learning and doing a lot better job then I would have.  I need to BACK OFF.  It was a lesson on how easy it is to become THAT parent.  Perspective people!

Friday, October 11, 2013

Justice after death

Yesterday I was listening to NPR and heard an interesting interview with a Rabbi discussing his views on what happens after death.  What caught my attention was his thought about justice and that those who had done horrible things would be *punished* for them.  I have often heard from people of various religious backgrounds that in some way, evil doers will have to answer for their crimes.  If not in this life, then "when they meet their maker". I have never really believed in this line of thought.  Is it fair that Hitler might have the same end Anne Frank? No, of course not, but I believe that justice and fairness are very human traits.  Retribution is something we feel that we deserve.  No where is it spoken that is something we are entitled to. Why should I, someone who has tried to live a compassionate life, have to share my afterlife with a cruel, evil person?  Yet, I believe I will.  I don't feel that we will be judged when we die.  Humans wrote the Bible to make sense of a cruel and oppressive world.  Promises of a judgement-filled God are human constructs.  Cruelty is caused by humans in a human world.  It has nothing to do with what happens when we die.  I try to be a good person, not because I fear for my afterlife, but because I feel happiness and fulfillment are built on love not hate. 

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Let YOUR Light Shine

I have been so disappointed in the partisan politics taking hold of Congress.  I have always felt that we were in this world together and could never understand the need to *win* to the peril of others.  It has been hard not to lose faith in humanity.  My friend wrote this post and it was exactly what I needed to read.  Please check it out and let your light be a beacon.